The type of paper I'm writing is arguing for a position. I need a title. I have some, but I want to compare mine to you all's. Anyone's suggestions will be greatly appreciated! Please keep the answers positive! :)I'm writing a paper on why teenagers run away from home. I need a strong title.?
';The Trials and Errors of a Runaway';
I'm not sure which stance you are taking, but I'm assuming since it is a argument paper you have at least 1 pro and 1 con of runaway teenagers.I'm writing a paper on why teenagers run away from home. I need a strong title.?
How about just... Runaway
';idiots';.
Saturday, August 21, 2010
In your oponion,is it okay for teenagers to have sex with their boyfriend/girlfriend?
if they really truely absolutely love each other then its okay. but you should know if the boy is just in it for sex. if the two partners are madly in love with each other and plan on getting married then yea its perfectly fine. but those people should know the consequences of unplanned pregnancies.In your oponion,is it okay for teenagers to have sex with their boyfriend/girlfriend?
As someone who got pregnant at the age of 16. I look back and realise that life has been very difficult for me b/c I was not able to go to university and get a degree that would allow me to make more money. My daughter is 16 now. I have done everything I can to help her make the decision to wait until she is TRULY ready and AT LEAST 18. I begged her to please tell me if she thinks she is ready I will put her on the pill (or something like it). I talk to her everyday and I make sure that if she likes a boy that I know everything about him and have met his parents. I NEVER let her be alone with him. And I make sure the boys parents are on the same page as me. I tell them straight up that I had her when I was 17 and I dont want her to make the same ';mistake';. I was way too young to deal with the HUGE responsibility of being a mother.In your oponion,is it okay for teenagers to have sex with their boyfriend/girlfriend?
Whether it is okay for teenagers to have sex in a relationship is not the real issue to discuss really. The real issue is that if they are going to have sex, they need to do so responsibly. What this means is birth control, and not just the pill but also something (like a condom) that can prevent STD's from being transferred from one person to the other. They need to know emotionally, mentally, and physically that the actions that they are doing (having sex) will affect them and their emotions in one way or another (positive or negative) for the rest of their lives, and that once they do it, they will be forever labeled by their peers.
Personally, I don't think that there is a teenager alive who meets all the requirements that should go along with having sex like being physically, emotionally, mentally, and financially ready for any result of sex, but again, teens are going to do what teens are going to do. The important thing is that they need to use protection and be responsible.
As someone who was a teenager once, I wish I would have waited out the ';naive teenage years'; before having sex, and I would advise all the teenage virgins out there to do the same, if not for themselves but for their families.
yeah it is, im 19 i have sex with my misses all the time
As someone who got pregnant at the age of 16. I look back and realise that life has been very difficult for me b/c I was not able to go to university and get a degree that would allow me to make more money. My daughter is 16 now. I have done everything I can to help her make the decision to wait until she is TRULY ready and AT LEAST 18. I begged her to please tell me if she thinks she is ready I will put her on the pill (or something like it). I talk to her everyday and I make sure that if she likes a boy that I know everything about him and have met his parents. I NEVER let her be alone with him. And I make sure the boys parents are on the same page as me. I tell them straight up that I had her when I was 17 and I dont want her to make the same ';mistake';. I was way too young to deal with the HUGE responsibility of being a mother.In your oponion,is it okay for teenagers to have sex with their boyfriend/girlfriend?
Whether it is okay for teenagers to have sex in a relationship is not the real issue to discuss really. The real issue is that if they are going to have sex, they need to do so responsibly. What this means is birth control, and not just the pill but also something (like a condom) that can prevent STD's from being transferred from one person to the other. They need to know emotionally, mentally, and physically that the actions that they are doing (having sex) will affect them and their emotions in one way or another (positive or negative) for the rest of their lives, and that once they do it, they will be forever labeled by their peers.
Personally, I don't think that there is a teenager alive who meets all the requirements that should go along with having sex like being physically, emotionally, mentally, and financially ready for any result of sex, but again, teens are going to do what teens are going to do. The important thing is that they need to use protection and be responsible.
As someone who was a teenager once, I wish I would have waited out the ';naive teenage years'; before having sex, and I would advise all the teenage virgins out there to do the same, if not for themselves but for their families.
yeah it is, im 19 i have sex with my misses all the time
Why are teenagers obsessed with teenager-slashing horror flicks?
Nightmare on Elm Street. Friday the 13th. And all the other teen-slash flicks that have come out since then. Why does it seem like teens are obsessed with other teens dying? I'm 26 and never was into that sort of thing; I find it ridiculous and downright stupid. So if anyone can explain the psychological goings-on on this-please explain it to me! :)Why are teenagers obsessed with teenager-slashing horror flicks?
Youngsters have always taken an interest in such things. I expect that it is part of learning about the world of adults and how to respond to various situations, even the most extreme and unlikely. I think it's emotionally healthy in moderation and if they grow out of the phase. But of course it doesn't interest everybody. Some are content not to know.Why are teenagers obsessed with teenager-slashing horror flicks?
Some people just like the thrill of not knowing what's going to happen. It's kind of like a rollercoaster ride.
i'm 38, and i was obsessed with the slasher flicks, because back in the '80's i was made to believe it could happen to me. i knew it was just a movie, but i would never go camping near a haunted lake, nor would i venture into a forest filled with fog. but it was a movie, and it was fun.... at the time. now you have movies like ';saw'; and ';the descent'; which feature 22-30 year olds in horrific scanarios . even beyond that there are movies like ';elephant'; that pit high school students killing other students. scary has evolved.
Yeah, I'm 23 and can't explain it either. I think it's part of the dumbing down of America, personally... More blood! Yeah! See what I mean?
Teenagers like a good scare. Something to raise the adrenaline levels and horror movies provide that. But I know a few teens who don't like horror, so its not unusual.
I'm one of the teenagers who loves horror.
Sex. Violence. Blood. Gore. Flesh. Swearing. Nude teens. What's not to love?
What makes you think there's an obsession? All I see are a relative few movies with a common theme. I'm sure there are some people who really, really like them, but watching a more banally appealing movie isn't an obsession, nor is it a sign of a ';dumbing down of America';. Furthermore, what makes you think it's the ';other teens dying'; part that's the focus of attention? It seems you've made some false presumptions.
Some people like to be frightened. You don't. It's neither complicated nor a big deal.
jesus christ!
normally i'm not a big horror movie fan but come on,
those movies are CLASSIC.
why are you complaining about those movies 20 years later they were out? there's nothing psychologically wrong with moives....obviously adults write the scripts...cause they do prefer people who graduated from college and whatnot...
are you trying to say you just don't think any kind of movie
is not ridiculous and downright ';stupid';?
cause lets see....we have sci-fi/thriller movies...we have drama/comedy movies...drama/thriller/horror movies...romantic comedy movies.
most of people like those movies regardless of if they are teens or not. i like die hard movies....i'm a teenager and the main character is an adult! it doesn't make sense how you relate one specific kind of classic horor movies with one specific group of people.
rob zombie made friday the 13th stupid...you can't re-make a masterpeice...he's seriously creepier than marilyn manson.
you're 26...stop acting like youre a 90 year old complaining about todays youth. most teens don't like classics, unfortunately. they aren't obsessed with it. take it from me, cause i am a teen.oily skin
Youngsters have always taken an interest in such things. I expect that it is part of learning about the world of adults and how to respond to various situations, even the most extreme and unlikely. I think it's emotionally healthy in moderation and if they grow out of the phase. But of course it doesn't interest everybody. Some are content not to know.Why are teenagers obsessed with teenager-slashing horror flicks?
Some people just like the thrill of not knowing what's going to happen. It's kind of like a rollercoaster ride.
i'm 38, and i was obsessed with the slasher flicks, because back in the '80's i was made to believe it could happen to me. i knew it was just a movie, but i would never go camping near a haunted lake, nor would i venture into a forest filled with fog. but it was a movie, and it was fun.... at the time. now you have movies like ';saw'; and ';the descent'; which feature 22-30 year olds in horrific scanarios . even beyond that there are movies like ';elephant'; that pit high school students killing other students. scary has evolved.
Yeah, I'm 23 and can't explain it either. I think it's part of the dumbing down of America, personally... More blood! Yeah! See what I mean?
Teenagers like a good scare. Something to raise the adrenaline levels and horror movies provide that. But I know a few teens who don't like horror, so its not unusual.
I'm one of the teenagers who loves horror.
Sex. Violence. Blood. Gore. Flesh. Swearing. Nude teens. What's not to love?
What makes you think there's an obsession? All I see are a relative few movies with a common theme. I'm sure there are some people who really, really like them, but watching a more banally appealing movie isn't an obsession, nor is it a sign of a ';dumbing down of America';. Furthermore, what makes you think it's the ';other teens dying'; part that's the focus of attention? It seems you've made some false presumptions.
Some people like to be frightened. You don't. It's neither complicated nor a big deal.
jesus christ!
normally i'm not a big horror movie fan but come on,
those movies are CLASSIC.
why are you complaining about those movies 20 years later they were out? there's nothing psychologically wrong with moives....obviously adults write the scripts...cause they do prefer people who graduated from college and whatnot...
are you trying to say you just don't think any kind of movie
is not ridiculous and downright ';stupid';?
cause lets see....we have sci-fi/thriller movies...we have drama/comedy movies...drama/thriller/horror movies...romantic comedy movies.
most of people like those movies regardless of if they are teens or not. i like die hard movies....i'm a teenager and the main character is an adult! it doesn't make sense how you relate one specific kind of classic horor movies with one specific group of people.
rob zombie made friday the 13th stupid...you can't re-make a masterpeice...he's seriously creepier than marilyn manson.
you're 26...stop acting like youre a 90 year old complaining about todays youth. most teens don't like classics, unfortunately. they aren't obsessed with it. take it from me, cause i am a teen.
Is it a good idea for schools to avoid teaching teenagers about condoms?
Or do we have it right by expecting schools to teach abstinence only? Thank you for your opinions.Is it a good idea for schools to avoid teaching teenagers about condoms?
Our president's abstinence only policies are a complete failure.Is it a good idea for schools to avoid teaching teenagers about condoms?
Abstinence only programs have been a complete disaster.
Teaching abstinence only leads to STDs and babies.
I think schools should, as per their mission, teach ';facts';. Which means telling them about abstinence, about condoms, and even about unprotected sex. And the sliding scale of protection should be explained for each choice.
teaching abstinece only is just silly
it isnt going to happen ... plain and simple
so they NEED taught about safe sex
Yes, it is a very good idea. Teaching teenagers about condoms, and especially giving out free condoms, will only teach teenagers that it's okay to have sex with whoever, as long as you have a condom handy. Did these people ever think it might be a good idea to wait until AFTER marriage to have sex? People throw away the gift of sex and treat it like garbage, saving nothing for later. We need to teach high schoolers abstinence.
It's a good idea only if you want more teenage pregnancies.
Teach them about condoms and show them pics of other sexual diseases like they did when I was in school. We learned it in Elementary in 6th grade and thats age 11.
They should encourage condoms since some teens won't try abstinence. But let them know that condoms are not always effective.
No way. Kids need to know that without one you will get pregnant. Teen pregancies and abortions are both bad things to happen to a young girl. Most parents avoid talking about such awkward topics. They need to be taught in school how to be safe because they are going to have sex. There are actually girls out there in their teens who don't know where babies come from.
Information and Education are never wrong to teach.
Give people all the information and let them make decisions based on their own conscience.
If you do not believe in using condoms tell your kids why you don't....if you don't approve of pre-marital sex tell your kids why....TEACH your kids your beliefs..but don't leave them in ignorance because you are afraid that they won't listen to you. You child will make their own choice concerning pre-marital sex, either they will agree with you and wait..or they will convince themselves that somehow they are in love and they are going to get married anyway someday so it is okay..or they may just decide that what is right for you regarding premarital sex is not right for them ...
by only teaching abstinence, then you are saying they deserve to die for having pre-marital sex. (Yes Yes I know condoms do not protect 100%...but they sure protect better then nothing at all). And yes I do think it is that black and white. Teaching abstinence is best is one thing..but withholding information that can save your childs life is another thing entirely.
As for why should sex ed be taught in school? Sex is a part of life and should be taught about in science classes. Why teach about condoms, birth control, etc? because they are a part of health..and should be convered in health class.
The morality of sex is what should be taught by the parents as part of parenting...the science and health parts though should be part of the schools job.
NO you don't have it right! ABSTINENCE only creates babies, because hardly anyone waits!!!
If Bill Clinton had been condom-aware he wouldn't have had to splash out on a new dress for Monica!
It's a serious failure of the US education system if even the President can't get it right!
no, schools should teach everything, not make moral judgments based on religious beliefs and impose them on others.
No, not teaching them is a horrible idea.
no. they need to teach that stuff! as early as 7th grade!
Hmm well looking at how many teenagers we see getting pregnant and getting STD's already, i don't think it's wise not to teach about condoms. Because most kids are not religious, and even those who are often think ';well we are in love, so it's cool';.... so western teens will still be having sex whether we teach them about condoms or not, so I think we should.
Yes, like it or not kids are having sex. You can't just say don't and expect them to all listen. I'd rather a kid who was going to say ';screw you, I'll screw who I want'; to have a condom then to be unsafe.
And while I agree with someone above, it is the parents job to do this not the schools. Again, like it or not some parents aren't going to give a kid a condom, they will say don't or else end of discussion.
Teenagers are going to have sex. Expecting teenagers to abstain is like expecting a Christian to not be judgmental. It just ain't gonna happen. If you don't teach them about safe sex practices and birth control, well your going to see exactly what seems to be happening now. teenage pregnancies and teenagers with STD's will happen more and more often. Teaching teenagers how to act responsibly does not mean that you are condoning sex it simply means that yoy are aware of the fact that many are going to do it anyway.
Teaching abstinence only is idiotic. Very few people are going to listen to it. Its much more likely that kids will listen to ';use condoms';. Kids aren't exactly known for logical thinking and they will have sex anyway. This world isn't the perfect little place the religious like to think it is where everyone is perfectly happy doing what they're told like a good little slave.
Telling teenage boys not to do something is only going to make them more curious, and more tempted to do it. I can't even imagine how some do not want the schools teaching kids about protected sex.
Whether you like it or not, teens are GOING to have sex, so you might as well educate them about the importance of condoms and birth control.
Neither. Kids should learn history and math in school. Sex should be taught by parents only, and the parents decide whether to teach birth control or abstinence-only.
Since when was it our schools duty to do our parenting for us?
Our president's abstinence only policies are a complete failure.Is it a good idea for schools to avoid teaching teenagers about condoms?
Abstinence only programs have been a complete disaster.
Teaching abstinence only leads to STDs and babies.
I think schools should, as per their mission, teach ';facts';. Which means telling them about abstinence, about condoms, and even about unprotected sex. And the sliding scale of protection should be explained for each choice.
teaching abstinece only is just silly
it isnt going to happen ... plain and simple
so they NEED taught about safe sex
Yes, it is a very good idea. Teaching teenagers about condoms, and especially giving out free condoms, will only teach teenagers that it's okay to have sex with whoever, as long as you have a condom handy. Did these people ever think it might be a good idea to wait until AFTER marriage to have sex? People throw away the gift of sex and treat it like garbage, saving nothing for later. We need to teach high schoolers abstinence.
It's a good idea only if you want more teenage pregnancies.
Teach them about condoms and show them pics of other sexual diseases like they did when I was in school. We learned it in Elementary in 6th grade and thats age 11.
They should encourage condoms since some teens won't try abstinence. But let them know that condoms are not always effective.
No way. Kids need to know that without one you will get pregnant. Teen pregancies and abortions are both bad things to happen to a young girl. Most parents avoid talking about such awkward topics. They need to be taught in school how to be safe because they are going to have sex. There are actually girls out there in their teens who don't know where babies come from.
Information and Education are never wrong to teach.
Give people all the information and let them make decisions based on their own conscience.
If you do not believe in using condoms tell your kids why you don't....if you don't approve of pre-marital sex tell your kids why....TEACH your kids your beliefs..but don't leave them in ignorance because you are afraid that they won't listen to you. You child will make their own choice concerning pre-marital sex, either they will agree with you and wait..or they will convince themselves that somehow they are in love and they are going to get married anyway someday so it is okay..or they may just decide that what is right for you regarding premarital sex is not right for them ...
by only teaching abstinence, then you are saying they deserve to die for having pre-marital sex. (Yes Yes I know condoms do not protect 100%...but they sure protect better then nothing at all). And yes I do think it is that black and white. Teaching abstinence is best is one thing..but withholding information that can save your childs life is another thing entirely.
As for why should sex ed be taught in school? Sex is a part of life and should be taught about in science classes. Why teach about condoms, birth control, etc? because they are a part of health..and should be convered in health class.
The morality of sex is what should be taught by the parents as part of parenting...the science and health parts though should be part of the schools job.
NO you don't have it right! ABSTINENCE only creates babies, because hardly anyone waits!!!
If Bill Clinton had been condom-aware he wouldn't have had to splash out on a new dress for Monica!
It's a serious failure of the US education system if even the President can't get it right!
no, schools should teach everything, not make moral judgments based on religious beliefs and impose them on others.
No, not teaching them is a horrible idea.
no. they need to teach that stuff! as early as 7th grade!
Hmm well looking at how many teenagers we see getting pregnant and getting STD's already, i don't think it's wise not to teach about condoms. Because most kids are not religious, and even those who are often think ';well we are in love, so it's cool';.... so western teens will still be having sex whether we teach them about condoms or not, so I think we should.
Yes, like it or not kids are having sex. You can't just say don't and expect them to all listen. I'd rather a kid who was going to say ';screw you, I'll screw who I want'; to have a condom then to be unsafe.
And while I agree with someone above, it is the parents job to do this not the schools. Again, like it or not some parents aren't going to give a kid a condom, they will say don't or else end of discussion.
Teenagers are going to have sex. Expecting teenagers to abstain is like expecting a Christian to not be judgmental. It just ain't gonna happen. If you don't teach them about safe sex practices and birth control, well your going to see exactly what seems to be happening now. teenage pregnancies and teenagers with STD's will happen more and more often. Teaching teenagers how to act responsibly does not mean that you are condoning sex it simply means that yoy are aware of the fact that many are going to do it anyway.
Teaching abstinence only is idiotic. Very few people are going to listen to it. Its much more likely that kids will listen to ';use condoms';. Kids aren't exactly known for logical thinking and they will have sex anyway. This world isn't the perfect little place the religious like to think it is where everyone is perfectly happy doing what they're told like a good little slave.
Telling teenage boys not to do something is only going to make them more curious, and more tempted to do it. I can't even imagine how some do not want the schools teaching kids about protected sex.
Whether you like it or not, teens are GOING to have sex, so you might as well educate them about the importance of condoms and birth control.
Neither. Kids should learn history and math in school. Sex should be taught by parents only, and the parents decide whether to teach birth control or abstinence-only.
Since when was it our schools duty to do our parenting for us?
How do you control teenagers?
she is driving me carzyHow do you control teenagers?
An open dialouge is extremely necessary. She has to trust you, but you can't forget that she is experiencing for the first time the same hormonal changes that you have had years to adjust to. Mood swings, body changes, skin changes and the like are all contributing to her new personality. Be patient, and talk to her often.
We can't expect our teens to just ';get it';. Their personalities are growing and developing. They are questioning everything, and their bodies are in a constant state of flux. SHe will grow out of it.
I remember when my neice became a teenager. My sister was going crazy like you. It wasn't until she was almost an adult when it hit her that it's a very cruel joke to give a girl the body of a woman and all the desires that come with it and emotions of a child. My neice was confused. Should she play with dolls or date? The line between childhood and adolescence is sooo thin. The biological process takes place over six months or so, but the social, physical and emotional processes take years to complete.
Most people believe that it's jsut rebelion (a guaranteed growing pain), but I personally believe that it's a cruel joke on a child that their bodies give them desires and a certain level of independence because they are fully able to do everything an adult can do without the maturity to do it. It takes immense understanding on the part of a parent to give them growing degrees of responsibility and independence. This helped my neice. She and my sister sat down together and drew up a contract around the age of 14. It outlined dating, chores, social activities, grades. They agreed on the rules together. Of course there were some that were not negotiable, but she had a part in the decisions that would mold her future. The battles between them were then few and far between.
I remember once after the contract was signed that my neice at 16 got a ';B-'; in one of her classes (She had never made a ';B'; in her life and had an IQ of 154). Because of the contract, her social activities were reduced to the weekends only until she brought hom 3 ';A's'; from tests in teh class. There was a battle, but she brought her grades up and got over it. In essence, she had a job to do. Her job was to be responsible. If you don't get the work done, you have work overtime.
If you like, please email me regarding the contract. It was quite brilliant. I plan to use the idea myself.
I keep editting, but I just thought of something else after reading other responses. People seem to think that they need to add more and more rules as their children get older. It's understandable with dating and all the other things on their minds, but you have to add more and more freedoms and not assume they know what the rules are until they break them. There should be the absolutes about drinking, drugs and the like, but how they cut their hair and what they wear (as long as it covers from Cleveland to Virginia and isn't the wrong size) is not so important. It might embarass you to have a daughter with a crew cut, but if she is mature about schoolwork and such, does it really matter? At this point, she will develop her own sense of morality because of what you have taught her, but I'll add that if you haven't talked to her about sex, drugs, and appropriate behaviors, she will have a difficult time if she's yelled out understanding your point.How do you control teenagers?
I have a 15 yr old son. He doesn't drink, have sex or use drugs. But he thinks he knows everything and he's angry a lot of the time. And I have no idea what to do except wait it out. I wish I could give you advice. I outgrew the teenage attitude. Probably your daughter will also.
obviously. you have had atleast 2 easy spelling errors.
i am sorry but we are uncontrolable. again i am really sorry.
Do what I did with my kids, chain them up in the basement, and feed them a bucket of fish heads once a week, (it works wonders) (lol)
Well,as you probaly already know all teenagers go through this stage.but you have to put your foot down and show them who the parent is.Start grounding her or taking things away.Although it probaly wont work at first but eventually she will get tired of you taking things away and she will hoprfully straighten her self out.But sometimes with teens you have to show them tough love.I have had the same problem but it's kinda calming down.Just be sure that you stick to what you say.
put them in a stray jacket so she carnt lash out lmao not really listen to what she has to say and dont shout over her!! she might not give you respect but you give her respect dont shut her out! shes going to be wild for a while just treat her when shes good punish her when shes bad and DONTT tell her to go to her bed room its got everything she likes in there put her in the room with the least intresting things in the room!! treat her like a new puppy give her love be there when she needs you and wipe up the mess shes left and when shes angry carm her down and talk to her like and adult!!!
YOU LEAVE THEM ALONE!!!
give her boundaries, rules (curfew, not cussing, conversing with every other person respectfully, doing good in school, etc.) it's important to punish her right away (punish like grounding her or taking away her phone and other privileges) for not obeying you so that she gets to understand her wrong doing immediately. but you must tell her everytime that it's for her so that she'll become a better person, to be able to set her own values and make her own wise decisions, and also because you love her.
This is the common mistake of parents. You don't just ask how to control them when they already have a mind of their own. You start while they're still young. You give them proper love and affection. You teach them values that hopefully they will carry as they grow into puberty. When they're in this stage, you don't control them. The more you control, the more they want to break free. If there is already a gap between the two of you, you start bridging those gaps by extending your patience and understanding. remember, this is a difficult time for them, figuring out different things for themselves. Don't make things more difficult. What they need now is a friend who can understand, then be a parent and guide. ';Guide and advice'; don't dictate.
u really can't ur gonna have to find a way 2 compromise with her b4 she gets 2 out of hand
Control is the wrong word. You need to say to them that you are a group of adults sharing your lives, how can you all work together so things are fair for you all. Treat them that way, and they'll act the way you want. Most of the time anyway....
You CANNOT control a teenager. You have to make them want to control themselves.
How do you do this?
By not giving them everything they want. They should earn privelages for proper behavior.
Your Teen has/wants something of great value. When I was unruly my mother threatened to take away my guitar, or my freedom. I would actually get punished, and she would make me go through the whole thing. She's no joke, and I knew it.
you can't
you need MUTUAL respect
and then everything should fall into place
With lotsa love and a spanking
An open dialouge is extremely necessary. She has to trust you, but you can't forget that she is experiencing for the first time the same hormonal changes that you have had years to adjust to. Mood swings, body changes, skin changes and the like are all contributing to her new personality. Be patient, and talk to her often.
We can't expect our teens to just ';get it';. Their personalities are growing and developing. They are questioning everything, and their bodies are in a constant state of flux. SHe will grow out of it.
I remember when my neice became a teenager. My sister was going crazy like you. It wasn't until she was almost an adult when it hit her that it's a very cruel joke to give a girl the body of a woman and all the desires that come with it and emotions of a child. My neice was confused. Should she play with dolls or date? The line between childhood and adolescence is sooo thin. The biological process takes place over six months or so, but the social, physical and emotional processes take years to complete.
Most people believe that it's jsut rebelion (a guaranteed growing pain), but I personally believe that it's a cruel joke on a child that their bodies give them desires and a certain level of independence because they are fully able to do everything an adult can do without the maturity to do it. It takes immense understanding on the part of a parent to give them growing degrees of responsibility and independence. This helped my neice. She and my sister sat down together and drew up a contract around the age of 14. It outlined dating, chores, social activities, grades. They agreed on the rules together. Of course there were some that were not negotiable, but she had a part in the decisions that would mold her future. The battles between them were then few and far between.
I remember once after the contract was signed that my neice at 16 got a ';B-'; in one of her classes (She had never made a ';B'; in her life and had an IQ of 154). Because of the contract, her social activities were reduced to the weekends only until she brought hom 3 ';A's'; from tests in teh class. There was a battle, but she brought her grades up and got over it. In essence, she had a job to do. Her job was to be responsible. If you don't get the work done, you have work overtime.
If you like, please email me regarding the contract. It was quite brilliant. I plan to use the idea myself.
I keep editting, but I just thought of something else after reading other responses. People seem to think that they need to add more and more rules as their children get older. It's understandable with dating and all the other things on their minds, but you have to add more and more freedoms and not assume they know what the rules are until they break them. There should be the absolutes about drinking, drugs and the like, but how they cut their hair and what they wear (as long as it covers from Cleveland to Virginia and isn't the wrong size) is not so important. It might embarass you to have a daughter with a crew cut, but if she is mature about schoolwork and such, does it really matter? At this point, she will develop her own sense of morality because of what you have taught her, but I'll add that if you haven't talked to her about sex, drugs, and appropriate behaviors, she will have a difficult time if she's yelled out understanding your point.How do you control teenagers?
I have a 15 yr old son. He doesn't drink, have sex or use drugs. But he thinks he knows everything and he's angry a lot of the time. And I have no idea what to do except wait it out. I wish I could give you advice. I outgrew the teenage attitude. Probably your daughter will also.
obviously. you have had atleast 2 easy spelling errors.
i am sorry but we are uncontrolable. again i am really sorry.
Do what I did with my kids, chain them up in the basement, and feed them a bucket of fish heads once a week, (it works wonders) (lol)
Well,as you probaly already know all teenagers go through this stage.but you have to put your foot down and show them who the parent is.Start grounding her or taking things away.Although it probaly wont work at first but eventually she will get tired of you taking things away and she will hoprfully straighten her self out.But sometimes with teens you have to show them tough love.I have had the same problem but it's kinda calming down.Just be sure that you stick to what you say.
put them in a stray jacket so she carnt lash out lmao not really listen to what she has to say and dont shout over her!! she might not give you respect but you give her respect dont shut her out! shes going to be wild for a while just treat her when shes good punish her when shes bad and DONTT tell her to go to her bed room its got everything she likes in there put her in the room with the least intresting things in the room!! treat her like a new puppy give her love be there when she needs you and wipe up the mess shes left and when shes angry carm her down and talk to her like and adult!!!
YOU LEAVE THEM ALONE!!!
give her boundaries, rules (curfew, not cussing, conversing with every other person respectfully, doing good in school, etc.) it's important to punish her right away (punish like grounding her or taking away her phone and other privileges) for not obeying you so that she gets to understand her wrong doing immediately. but you must tell her everytime that it's for her so that she'll become a better person, to be able to set her own values and make her own wise decisions, and also because you love her.
This is the common mistake of parents. You don't just ask how to control them when they already have a mind of their own. You start while they're still young. You give them proper love and affection. You teach them values that hopefully they will carry as they grow into puberty. When they're in this stage, you don't control them. The more you control, the more they want to break free. If there is already a gap between the two of you, you start bridging those gaps by extending your patience and understanding. remember, this is a difficult time for them, figuring out different things for themselves. Don't make things more difficult. What they need now is a friend who can understand, then be a parent and guide. ';Guide and advice'; don't dictate.
u really can't ur gonna have to find a way 2 compromise with her b4 she gets 2 out of hand
Control is the wrong word. You need to say to them that you are a group of adults sharing your lives, how can you all work together so things are fair for you all. Treat them that way, and they'll act the way you want. Most of the time anyway....
You CANNOT control a teenager. You have to make them want to control themselves.
How do you do this?
By not giving them everything they want. They should earn privelages for proper behavior.
Your Teen has/wants something of great value. When I was unruly my mother threatened to take away my guitar, or my freedom. I would actually get punished, and she would make me go through the whole thing. She's no joke, and I knew it.
you can't
you need MUTUAL respect
and then everything should fall into place
With lotsa love and a spanking
Are you pregnant again now that your kids are teenagers or older? How do you feel about it?
I have a 15 year old ,a 13 year old, a 4 year old, and a 2 year old and I'm pregnant again. I wa sin shock to begin with (with this pregnancy I'm in now) but I know God has a plan and its bigger than me. I think every child is a blessing. I was very content with the 4 I have now but whats one more...when I cook supper I just have to throw another potato in the pot!Are you pregnant again now that your kids are teenagers or older? How do you feel about it?
I found out I was pregnant with my secodn when my daughter was 12. I was suprised but pleasantly. BUT when she was 13 and I again found out I was pregnant I was in COMPLETE shock! All of my children were very much wanted, just ALL unexpected (I had been told I was not likely to ever have ANY children when I was 15 years old, so THREE times???).Are you pregnant again now that your kids are teenagers or older? How do you feel about it?
Some folks might feel this is wonderful; others might feel like this is the end of their world. But that isn't what this question is about...how are you feeling about this unexpected pregnancy?
my aunt had a 22 year old son and she got pregnant again she was so shocked but very excited he is soo spoiled now lol but she loved being pregnant again evrything was so new to her!! but there are some who feel tied down again after finally raising their other children to full adults and getting pregnant all people are different!! but my aunt loved it!
i have a 9 year old and a soon to be 8 year old and im trying for the 3rd and i am excited for me and them!!
I am 27 weeks with #4 and was totally surprised. Our oldest just turned 13 and our youngest just turned 9. For the first couple of days I was in total disbelief thinking of how everything was going to change and could I do it , but after that I'm totally ready and so are our kids.
I found out I was pregnant with my secodn when my daughter was 12. I was suprised but pleasantly. BUT when she was 13 and I again found out I was pregnant I was in COMPLETE shock! All of my children were very much wanted, just ALL unexpected (I had been told I was not likely to ever have ANY children when I was 15 years old, so THREE times???).Are you pregnant again now that your kids are teenagers or older? How do you feel about it?
Some folks might feel this is wonderful; others might feel like this is the end of their world. But that isn't what this question is about...how are you feeling about this unexpected pregnancy?
my aunt had a 22 year old son and she got pregnant again she was so shocked but very excited he is soo spoiled now lol but she loved being pregnant again evrything was so new to her!! but there are some who feel tied down again after finally raising their other children to full adults and getting pregnant all people are different!! but my aunt loved it!
i have a 9 year old and a soon to be 8 year old and im trying for the 3rd and i am excited for me and them!!
I am 27 weeks with #4 and was totally surprised. Our oldest just turned 13 and our youngest just turned 9. For the first couple of days I was in total disbelief thinking of how everything was going to change and could I do it , but after that I'm totally ready and so are our kids.
Friday, July 30, 2010
Why is it okay for teenagers in America to have sexual relationships before even marriage ?
Because they all know there is no sex after marriage. lolWhy is it okay for teenagers in America to have sexual relationships before even marriage ?
LOL no its not okay but im sure that its not just happening in america ,its happening in your own back yard too and if you think it isnt youre sadly mistaken!!!!
no its not ok but they do it so the only thing we can do is to make sure they are doing it safely.....Why is it okay for teenagers in America to have sexual relationships before even marriage ?
i, as a teen know what its liike to have sex. but its also when we find people we are really in love with, at least me anyways. at first i was scared but i really love this guy and i just wanted to show him that. i would never have sex with him if i didn't feel like he was the one for me
ok? It depends on the individual and how they were raised...believe it or not some people still wait...It has just been socialized in us to think it is ok to do anythign we want...that is why we are a mess! We run with our freedom...and we end up having abortions, doing drugs and having sex with anything with two legs..not every American though...
I don't think it's only in America. Teenagers pretty much all over the western world tend to be sexually active. It's when their hormones kick in so I suppose that's why....
LOL no its not okay but im sure that its not just happening in america ,its happening in your own back yard too and if you think it isnt youre sadly mistaken!!!!
no its not ok but they do it so the only thing we can do is to make sure they are doing it safely.....Why is it okay for teenagers in America to have sexual relationships before even marriage ?
i, as a teen know what its liike to have sex. but its also when we find people we are really in love with, at least me anyways. at first i was scared but i really love this guy and i just wanted to show him that. i would never have sex with him if i didn't feel like he was the one for me
ok? It depends on the individual and how they were raised...believe it or not some people still wait...It has just been socialized in us to think it is ok to do anythign we want...that is why we are a mess! We run with our freedom...and we end up having abortions, doing drugs and having sex with anything with two legs..not every American though...
I don't think it's only in America. Teenagers pretty much all over the western world tend to be sexually active. It's when their hormones kick in so I suppose that's why....
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